Sunday, 8 June 2014

Feeling Sexy

SEXY.

Why do we sometimes associate this word with ones like skanky and slut?  I often find it is a difficult word to say, much less apply to myself.  Somewhere along the line, I started believing this word didn't apply to "good girls", but rather sleazy girls wearing gobs of makeup lining up on the street corner in leather stiletto boots.

I had it in my mind that a good Christian girl is prim, proper, and wholesome.  She wears conservative clothes, avoids much makeup, hides any overtly sexual physical characteristics, and doesn't flirt.  If she were to break out of this mold, she would be offending God and acting sinful.

Now, before anyone gets any ideas, my parents, church, school, and friends did NOT perpetuate this stereotype with me.  It wasn't driven into my head by anyone other than myself.  And I have to ask myself, why?  What happened that I would believe I didn't deserve to feel sexy?

Sexy is not slutty.  It's not going out and having unprotected sex with the first guy/girl to come your way.  It's not objectifying yourself and it isn't dressing in micro clothing designed to leave nothing to the imagination.  In my opinion, sexy is how you feel about yourself.  It is completely normal and even wonderful to feel attractive and wanted.  It doesn't mean you have to prostitute yourself.

So many people see the dark side of the word...the indiscriminate sex; the pornography so readily available on the internet; and the dark imagery perpetuated by movies, music, and television.

Feeling sexy can be as simple as eating right (it's amazing how much better you feel when you get your fruits, veggies and water in!), or wearing your hair in a new way.  Some women feel empowered by wearing sexy underwear under conservative business wear, or putting on an attractive shade of lipstick.

A lot of women start to find that exercising helps them feel sexier, and I'm happy to count myself as one of those.  The pole fitness is definitely more provocative than weight lifting, but it's not simply the moves that help me feel sexier.  It's confidence in my body and improvement in the way I carry myself that makes me feel good about myself and...

Sexy.




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